PLAN
Prov 21:5
The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.
Jer 18:12
But they will reply, ‘It’s no use. We will continue with our own plans; each of us will follow the stubbornness of his evil heart.'”
The reason why you need to plan is that you don’t have to plan on your own. Plaining on your own is like living God behind in your plan. The passage reads is an indication of the implication of self plaining without God’s input.
Once you have sought God’s face, the invitation for a divine direction. And of divine steps for the right choice. Then you begin to plan.. Every process is important and it’s necessary if one truly desires to have a successful marital life. When you failed to plan well, then you’re already planning to fail well.
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The reason why you need to plan here is to get acquitted with the person you’re planning or you want to build a future with. It’s paramount that you both need to get to know each other by relating with each other which is what relationship is all about. If you can’t relate together, it will also be difficult for two of you stay together because you both must and should learn how to tolerate with one another. This is where other essential things have to be revealed. Here there’s no pretends everything must be done openly.
What are the keys needed here?
The first thing you must bear in mind is this. Relationship/courtship is something between two or more different people, but the one that has to do or that will lead to marriage is from two people from two different backgrounds. In other words, you’re about to engage with someone from another family whose his/her lifestyle and the brought up is not the same as yours.
Nevertheless, your mind should be ready to accept and to agree with the person, but you don’t have to rush to take that decision else you will in no time rush out. Prov 21:5 The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.
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This’s where the issue of courtship comes and it begins from.
As l said earlier, bear in mind that you’re both coming from a different family, and a differently brought up, and importantly, practically from a different nature.
Even though you may have some certain things in common, yet, you can’t have everything in common, because, nature has many different things that are not common in nature. You’re both imperfect but should come together to make things work, perfectly together. This is very possible if you both desire to make it work.
The fact I want you to know is this. It takes two to make a relationship work. It takes two to make a marriage work and to be joyful, peaceful, fruitful, and merry. Although, the effort to achieve this sometimes might be weighing on one side, yet, it’s lightening and still be joyful when it’s done and properly plan and being agreed on from both parties, based on their mutual maturity in their relationship proper plan with honesty, open-minded, trust, genuine affection.
Agape love often supersede any unforeseen or any turbulent in a relationship or marital challenge, the grace and the strength to stay on the track will always be there for them, and to sustain them, this will be so if the two-parties involved had already planned it that way from the beginning of their relationship and while, and during their courtship.
In furtherance, the courtship period is not a period for cutting, courtship time is not a period to engage in any acts of disobedience to God or parent/guidance. Courtship period is not the time to engage in a frivolous and empty promise.
Courtship time is not for a clubhouse time, not for party time, evil gathering, bad influence, it is not for unprofitable argument nor the time for senseless talk, you both mustn’t engage in any conscious or unconscious acts of evil, either by using any object to make an oath or swearing of any kind, because anything done at this period is going to tell on you, either you eventually married, or you were separated and married another person, all your words, and your action shall be recorded and it’s will certainly playback and to demand for action from you someday.
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Pitifully, many today were suffering in relationship/marriage or having a delay because of what they did when they’re courting or what they’ve had with the during the time of their relationship/ courtship out of their ignorance, while many keeps wondering what’s happening to them, some couldn’t have peace, joy, or conceived, some their children were not behaving well, despite what they got.
Or what they’ve put in, their effort in that relationship /marriage. All this and many unexplainable happenings could be the result of the injury you’ve sustained during your courtship before your marriage or in the past relationship.
I tell you what! Something had gone wrong somewhere, sometime, you need to ruminate over your pass, then, put your thought into action by doing the right thing. The truth is this, it’s never too late for it to be discovered, then you need to uncover to recover your God-given and promised /fruitful, peaceful marriage.
The plaining period of courtship is the time you both need to plan for the future of your life, and that of your marriage, don’t spend all the important time talking or planning for a wedding,
No, this is one of the erroneous things many used to make and many are still doing the same till now. They cleverly and passionately planning for their wedding, but collectively and consciously forget to plan well for their marriage, whereas, the wedding is just for a day, while marriage is for a lifetime. It’s like a person putting his/her want above his/her needs.
This is nothing, but a foolish act. During your planning period, try to know the person you want to have a relationship with, who he/she is, this would help to prepare your mind on what to expect from your future partner. Because, once you both agree to go on with the union and the nut is tied, you both automatically, become one for life till death do you apart.
In the course of your planning, you need to know the spiritual life of the person. You need to know the background of the person, but not in terms of how rich or how influential they’re in their family, you can only emphasize that if you wanted to marry a rich person from a rich family background which is not advisable. Relationships/ marriages shouldn’t base on the material platform. It’s meant to be natural and to be divine without any materialistic attachment.
More details and other plans of what needed to be done will be given in the subsequent article.
Perhaps you got something to share with me on this. Please let hear from you.
